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  • Narendra 10:11 pm on March 26, 2012 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: art, Book, , , Reading   

    My favorite Book and What I learnt from it ? 

    People who know me from close quarters would tell you that I’m not into reading books. However, once a while I do read and my preference is limited to self help and Cricket, everything else is a big NO NO  🙂

    Sometime in early 2002, I was reading Arindam Chaudhri’s ‘ Count your Chickens before they hatch ‘. The book had made few references to a popular book titled ‘ How to win friends and influence people ‘. I really loved those tit-bits, so much so that I bought the book.

    I’m not sure how many of us have read this book but for me it is by far the most remarkable book I have ever read, simply because whatever written there is extremely practical, timeless and easy to pick up, it wouldn’t require a genius to follow those tips. Of course it is impossible to internalize all the tips & suggestions mentioned there. But, over years I have somewhat managed to apply select few with reasonable success. Here’s what I learnt.

    1) Name:  From the book I learnt that ‘Name‘ was people’s biggest ego, if you can remember one’s name and pronounce it right that in itself creates a positive impact on the other person. So, during my B-school I consciously tried to remember the name’s of everyone I shooked hands with, be it a student, clerk, hawker or faculty. I had everyone’s name in my memory, and trust me I’m not joking. With my classmates I went little deeper, I tried to dig in some more details like their childhood, family, birthday, likes and dislikes etc. By doing so I was able to pleasantly surprise many of my buddies and accquanitances on many a occasions.

    2) Smile: Luckily, I was never the brooding type however, I wasn’t an ever smiling person as well. The book had very clearly articulated the importance of a genuine ‘smile’. This again fell in place with some practice and conscious efforts to smile more often. Believe me, a genuine smile will win you more friends than any other random act of brilliance. Remember to smile, it is free, totally free doesn’t cost a paise yet returns are humongous.

    3) Listen:  Thanks to my fathers commanding demeanor, I paid rapt attention to whatever he said which meant by accident or design I grew up into a active listener, the book only reaffirmed my faith in the art of listening. This is a very tough task because many a times during conversations we get into topics which others might be extremely passionate about but of little or no relevance to us, naturally it takes lot of effort to cultivate decent listening skills. It’s my firm belief that a good listener will definitely do better in any relationship than a regular person.

    4) Appreciation:  People are hungry for appreciation, unfortunately it is in serious short supply, timely appreciation can be great motivator. The GREATEST learning from the book for me was the ‘ Power of Appreciation ‘. Like most Indians by default I’m cynical and sarcastic ( something I would love to change but guess time isn’t right for this ) so in the beginning, to masquerade this grand weakness ‘Appreciation’ was a perfect foil but with time I would like to believe it became more and more earnest. With time I have moved  away from cliched one liners to quirkier ways to appreciate , for example: Instead of   ‘you look beautiful in this dress’ I tend to say ‘ you just made this dress look awesome ‘ or ‘ I never thought you could look better than yesterday ‘.

    How to win friends and Influence People ‘ left a lasting impression on my mind, time and again I flip through this masterpiece, brings great joy. It’s one book I would recommend people to FOLLOW, reading alone would do no justice to this piece of beauty.


    • sheryll 3:39 am on March 27, 2012 Permalink | Reply

      Great suggestions. I am really bad remembering names. And, yes smiling is very important. It is something I need to do often. I am always told to smile. I think I will check out that book.

      • Narendra 6:17 pm on March 27, 2012 Permalink | Reply

        Yes, you should get the book and try to implement them. Extremely easy wouldn’t take much more of your time. Good Luck, Sheryl.

    • sufia 1:23 pm on March 27, 2012 Permalink | Reply

      im GLAD you mentioned pronouncing someones name correctly. ufff.. it can drive ppl nuts when other ppl dont get their name right.

      • Narendra 6:22 pm on March 27, 2012 Permalink | Reply

        Totally agree, it is very important to get names right.

        There was a classmate of mine at B-school his name is Ripujeet Nongthombam, I kept repeating his name for an entire day and perfected it. I could see him smile every time I called out his name, he once admitted it made him feel good as someone got his name right.

  • Narendra 9:35 pm on June 19, 2011 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: art, Bedroom, fairy, house, wall   

    Wall..no..not facebook wall 

    Little while ago, I was at my favorite girl’s home. They have redone their place. I was completely bowled over by the art work in the hall, it’s simple and eye catching, Brilliant blend of gold and red color appeased my senses, radiates energy, love the wall. Master bedroom has a much docile outlook, it’s painted in blue. Kitchen sported a pleasant look. However, what stole the show was the secondary bedroom. It’s built around a ‘fairy’ theme. When the lights are on you see fairy, stars, butterflies and few cute looking clouds. I was totally charmed by the theme. And what really floored me was the glow effect when you turn off the lights, so lovely. It’s been a while since I fell for something as simple as that. In love with the wall. And of course with the girl 🙂

    You can see a tiny portion of the wall, it look golden thanks to the camera flash. And in case you’re wondering what was I trying to do, I have NO CLUE.

    Ahhh!!!! Fairy wall, Wow!!!

    • Vincent Raja 10:58 pm on June 19, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      Wow…even i was planning to paint with a theme for my bedroom… well how much it cost…. Approx.. 😛

    • sufia 11:29 pm on June 20, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      well yes i WAS wondering..but its ok i wont ask 😀

      love the fairy…and say hi to thr little girl for me

      • Narendra 10:25 am on June 21, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh..ab tumhare dimaag mein kya chal raha hai..hmmmmmmmmmmm

        • sufia 8:12 pm on June 21, 2011 Permalink | Reply

          it DOES pique my curiosity 😉 what r u doing in the pic?

          • Narendra 9:10 pm on June 21, 2011 Permalink | Reply

            I don’t know..memory loss..guess was trying to catch her..no idea 😀

    • Kim 1:41 am on June 21, 2011 Permalink | Reply


    • Abi 2:32 am on June 29, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      nice theme.. i would love that for my room

  • Narendra 8:50 pm on April 30, 2011 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: art, Dance, , Michael Jackson,   

    Michael Jackson 

    Music has never been my cup of tea however, like all I too enjoy Michael Jackson’s music. I never really understood how he could do so many things write, sing, dance, organize, direct and what not, he was truly a genius unfortunately his eccentric side tarnished his achievements, anyways everyone is flawed. Since I’m not much into lyrics and stuff, I have ranked them in terms of catchy tune and eye catching video. Here’s my pick.

    1. Smooth Criminal: I was about 8 when I first heard this song, I really like the beats in this song and the video ( which I saw much later ) rocks big time. For me this is his best ever composition.

    2. Billie Jean: Believe it or not, I first heard this song when he died ( I might have heard it before but I have no recollection of that ), it was being repeatedly  played on most Television channels the week he passed away. I liked the way it sounded. Later on, I checked out the video and also the motown show where he first showcased his very famous “moon walk”

    3. Black or White: I love this song for its fantastic video, especially the part where he dances alongside an Indian dancer 😀

    4. Remember the time: I have seen this video many a times, extremely refreshing.

    5. Bad: Every “good” guys dream – to go bad.  😀

    …Because I’m Bad, I’m Bad
    Come On..
    Bad, Bad, Really, Really Bad…

    Do you agree with my ranking? let me know your favorites  🙂

    • sufia 9:03 pm on April 30, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      remember the time 🙂 i remember how fascinated i was with the video at the time. cant remember a word of the song, but the video still stays with me

    • jm 5:47 am on May 1, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      Smooth Criminal is at the top for me, but I love “They Don’t Really Care About Us” and “Jam”

      • Narendra 11:21 am on May 1, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        yyyaaaaaaayyyyyyyy for Smooth Criminal…I have heard the other 2 songs as well.. Jam is too chaotic..but it has a fantastic opening music..

    • Kim 8:18 pm on May 1, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      They are like my favourites too 😀

    • Sheryll 1:53 am on May 2, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      Michael Jackson is a favorite of mine. We were in Las Vegas when we found out he had died. We went to Madame Tossoud (misspelled name) to see his statue. There were hundreds of people waiting in line just to get a picture with his statue. I love his music, and the message behind it.

    • Single Malt Monkey 11:47 am on May 2, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      I was never much of an MJ fan but I respect his achievements and his hits are unique. He was a great dancer, too, (though the crotch grabbing was parody from the beginning. 🙂 ). My fave here is “Billy Jean” though upon hearing the tunes they are all memorable.

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