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  • Narendra 12:39 pm on January 1, 2013 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Capital punishment, , , , Human rights, , New Delhi, ,   

    Fight against Rape – A pitch 

    In a land where every possible crime is committed, having laws, be it strict or lenient is not going to solve anything. The ones who are not going to commit crime are anyways going to stay away and the ones who would are going to work things around it.

    For example, Terrorism, perhaps the most severe punishments are served against such acts but has that stopped or minimized Terrorism ? I guess the answer is NO. So, why hasn’t stringent laws deterred random youth, in few cases educated youth from flirting with such draconian activities ?

    I like to believe that a mind of a criminal is lot more complicated than a regular guy. Especially, the ones who commit one after rapeelaborate planning. And statistics reveal that a mind boggling 97% rapes are committed by people known to the victims. Which means we can safely presume these were planned and executed with clinical precision. Now, that is alarming. So, the next logical question would be how do you stop such planned crime against women ?

    I know many a suggestions and recommendations are doing rounds, each one has an opinion, few strong, few confused and few contradictory. Take for example, a news channel was talking about having more police around Malls, Railway stations, Bus terminus and other crowded areas meanwhile, another TV channel was lobbying for more protection is isolated areas since, they’re the places a lady would be at highest risk ( makes sense to me ).

    Here are my set of recommendations,

    1. Install Surveillance Camera’s in every street. Especially, ones which are isolated or far away from police stations or police chowk.

    2. Permit shops, malls, establishments etc to be open 24X7, 365 days. Let the city never sleep.

    3. Instead of distributing ‘Aakash’, the stupid tablet. Divert those funds to provide combat training & if possible some local variant of pepper spray for the female students.

    4. Of course, the laws need to be terrifying, I mean just chemical castration or 30 years imprisonment won’t do, it has to be something more torturous & lethal that would send shivers down the spine. ( I understand human rights violation and all, but do these criminals really deserve such rights ? )

    5. Movies & other mass media platforms need to reinvent themselves, when was the last time you saw “women” portrayed as a women in the Cinema,, my guess is ‘Mother India’ way back in 1957. After that it’s either bullshit or regressive. We need stricter guidelines for mass media, female folk deserve better representation.

    6. Women need to lift their game. If you want an equal standing, rise to it. Do not expect some man to respect you if women folk themselves are looking down on you. It’s not done at all. I don’t like the campaign which says ‘ Don’t ask your girls not to go out, teach your sons not to rape’ . Well you’re a mom or a sister to someone, why don’t you go and teach your folks. I mean stop blaming men for everything, look into your own world & fix the issues.  I recommend a massive overhaul, a steady and sustained educative campaign to empower women.

    7. As SRK put it ‘ I am so sorry that I am a man ‘. The biggest losers in this shameful process are the Gents. Raping or molesting a girl is an act of insanity, just terrible. We really need to revolutionize the way we treat our women. I know this is not going to happen in a month or a year or even in decades but it’s time to push for change. 50% of India’s population is under the age of 30, which means we have a sizable population which can be taught the right stuff at the right age. It’s in the governments hands to impart sufficient knowledge & sense of empathy to the budding minds. Again a humongous task, difficult but not Impossible.

    • Arvinth 1:52 pm on January 1, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      Nice post.. I believe women should get more licensed guns so that they can protect themselves better..

      • Narendra 3:22 pm on January 1, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        Hahahahahaa…Come on, guns & killing is never a solution. Yes! I agree doing so would create a sense of fear among men when they plan an attack on a lady but shooting is bit radical for my taste.

        We don’t want a scenario where some crazy lady goes berserk and guns down men for fun or some pending grudge…this is India Bhai 🙂

    • sufiaz 7:07 pm on January 1, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      Im sorry to hear about that girl, forgetting her name. It is tragic to see how women are not respected in our society and a girl is not safe when she steps out on the street or goes about her daily business. Also unfortunately, even guys who stand up to protect women dont seem to be safe either. Only last week, a guy was shot dead in Karachi simply because he told someone off for harassing his sister. sad state of affairs.

      • Narendra 10:35 pm on January 1, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        You’re so right, even men who stand up for their women folks are under pressure too. So many such cases in India as well.

    • Ramya 2:27 pm on January 2, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      Superb yaar. Really a worth reading. Look into your own world and stop issues. Cent percent right.. But only some of the girls are very bold to face the issues and others are not i think…

      • Narendra 10:05 am on January 3, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        Yes! that’s the point, if safety is at stake, it’s imperative to rise & stand up for it.

  • Narendra 4:08 pm on March 25, 2012 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: change, cussing, how to change habits, New Delhi, secrets to change, swearing   

    How I rid swearing ? and my 4 Big Secrets to ‘Change’ 

    Like most teen kids, I took to swearing quite early. I started swearing purely for fun, as far as I remember I never cussed when I was angry. I was simply in love with swearing so much so that at one point of time I uttered cuss words in almost every sentence. I derived cheap thrills doing so, I mean…. I’m sure you would agree cussing was fun as a teen ( not sure if women would agree though )

    Things cruised along, finished high school went to an engineering college. I was little conscious in the first few months and once I felt part of the group I was at my usual best. Apparently I never cussed when I was angry, I showered them for fun only.

    Once I was done with college, I headed North to New Delhi for my Management studies. The first few days were a huge cultural shock for me ( more of that in some other post ). Anyone who has been or lived in Delhi will tell you that people over there are extremely aggressive both physically and verbally. It would easily qualify as the cuss capital of India 🙂

    At my B-school, good 80-85% of my classmates hailed from non-engineering backgrounds and for some reason they rated engineers highly ( Of course their fascination was validated once the first trimester results were out, All the engineering kids were in the Top 10 ). This put pressure on me because kids around me perceived that

    A)  I was brilliant at Mathematics.

    B)  I was a gentleman.

    First part was easy because mathematics at B-school was child’s play for me, I hit jackpot in all the math exams. But the Part B was tricky, Imagine this – you’re a zebra but everyone around you thinks you’re a Tiger because you sport Stripes. Buoyed by the adulation and attention I received in my classroom it was paramount for me to continue in a manner which would retain their faith in “gentleman” me.

    Academic piece was fine, so I had to work had on my personality and for me the single biggest flaw was compulsive swearing because it was explicit, everyone could notice it, you see in this part of the world cussing is not seen as a gentleman’s trait ( guess all culture’s believe the same) so I went against my instincts and with time I trained my mind and tongue to unlearn the unwanted. By the time I had finished my Post-grad I had conquered my habit of swearing. Since then I have done away with it for good.

    For me it was an important change, as I could prove myself that bad habits can be tamed but Yes!! the reward had to be something awesome, in this case it was respect and acceptance of my fellow students.

    If you’re someone who is looking to change a habit, remember it is easy, little self discipline combined with the right environment can help you change.

    Here’re my 4 Big secrets to ‘Change’

    1) Do not tell others that you’re trying to change something : Unfortunately more people want us to fail than succeed. Especially when you’re trying to correct something negative, people would make you concious and sometimes that would put more pressure on oneself. So keep it for yourself, no need to declare to the world that you’re quitting smoking, just start doing it.

    2) Rome wasn’t built in a day: No habit changes overnight, I repeat no habit changes overnight. So, accept the fact and have daily targets, don’t make crazy 30-day targets, it just makes oneself miserable when we miss the target. For few it might happen in 20 days and for some 200. So don’t force yourself to go by some standard formula, it is most likely to fail.

    3) Community: Start spending additional time with people who don’t have that particular habit which you intend to rid. For one’s who want to quit smoking, spend additional time with non-smokers and try to notice how they are benefiting from being non-smokers.

    4) Perseverance: This is perhaps the biggest secret to ridding ill habits. Change is very hard to notice since it is gradual, you may not see any change in the beginning, nothing at all. Don’t loose heart when you fail keep trying, change also has a lot to do our mental maturity what you couldn’t at 25 might be possible at 30 so, keep trying. Never give up.

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