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  • Narendra 9:09 am on April 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Elevator, , Relationships   

    Who is the last person I’d want to be stuck in an elevator with? 

    Luckilyย for me, I have hardly had unruly relationship with someone. I can’t think of anyone be it a schoolmate,ย college mate, teacher, boss, co-worker or anyone I have known to have shared extremely bitter relationship. I did have difficulties and disagreements with many however, not to an extent that I would go for their throat or end up in a deadlock scenario if we were to be stuck on an elevator. Maybe I might feature in others I-don’t-want-to-see-him-again list but there’s no one in my list. ๐Ÿ˜›

    So who is that I fear the most to be stuck on an elevator with? It’s my DAD. Yes! my father. ๐Ÿ™‚ ย It’s not that we hate each other or have an unhealthy relationship, it’s just that our relationship is extremely ” Indian” in nature, here’s why.

    Like most Indian families, there’s a huge power distance between my father and me. We’re not friends, he’s my father and I’m his son and that mismatch will stay forever. As a kid, out of the three siblings, I happened to have spent the most time alone with him, just we two. Right from visits to market [ which I always found enthralling ] to attending outstation marriage ceremonies, most of the times it was me and dad. And, whenever I used to go out with him, we hardly spoke to each other. I remember the countless minutes we have spent waiting at hospitals, It’s something which remains deeplyย etchedย in my memories simply because of my helplessness in that scenario. We both would sit there all day and hardly utter a word to one another. On a particular day, we waited for over 8 hours and yet we hardly had a conversation. Those were days when he was highlyย temperamental and aggressive so, to avoid any adverse situation I would remain quiet and seldom talk to him, only answer hisย queries, that’s all :-P. With time and age he did mellow down drastically however, the equation between us still remains the same. As of now, we do have chats occasionally however, it’s still not the way I would want it to be. ๐Ÿ˜€

    I’m a person who likes to talk a lot but if I were to be stuck with him, I will just stare at the elevator’s door and desperately hope for the lift to move ASAP. Moreover, when I’m with him I feel a tinge of nervousness, and that is something I so like to hate. I pray that I would never get into that scenario. Just to imagine myself trapped with him in itself makes me go cold. ๐Ÿ˜€

    How about you? who is that you don’t want to be stuck in an elevator with?

     

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    • Arvinth 10:27 am on April 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      Wud hate to be with Blacky and KJ ๐Ÿ˜‰

    • Jackie Paulson 1966 12:07 pm on April 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      LOL Barney FIFE from my favorite show Andy Griffith. wow, you and dad what a relationship. I just cannot imagine that. I need to learn more about your culture and with relationships.

      • Narendra 12:39 pm on April 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        Hhehehhhee..It’s the case in many Indian families..that’s how it is meant to be..parents have to be parents..they don’t have to be ur friends..that’s a separate category..tht’s one reason u wud find most Indians disciplined..courtesy parents..Do u think a kid wud be disciplined if his parents treated him as a friend? ๐Ÿ˜€

    • Kapil 2:47 pm on April 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      Bhai this wud be true for 99.9% of Indians including me . Nahiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

      • Narendra 10:32 pm on April 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        yyyaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy…I’m sure lot of kids would agree with you ๐Ÿ˜€

    • Single Malt Monkey 11:52 am on April 10, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      I used to know an old guy, let’s call him Reg, who had long passed the point of caring when, how, or who he was with, when passing wind ! Reg didn’t give a damn. If it was in – it was coming out – even if he was surrounded by strangers, friends, even maybe the Queen. Stuck in lift with Reg? Nnnnoooooooooooooooooo

  • Narendra 3:39 pm on February 7, 2011 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: bride, groom, lucky, mahesh, , Relationships, shaadi   

    Mahesh ki Shaadi 

    Today was my best friend Mahesh Janakiraman’s wedding. I known him since 1992 and so much so that I can write an entire book about him but, that’s for another day. Today was his day. He was the star.

    He is a kind of guy, every girl dreams of …hmmm ok, not exactly..he’s not good with numbers, GK is poor and has disastrous sense of direction however, he has the most important qualities any girl would look for in an ideal husband – Love and Loyalty. In a generation where loyalty is thing of the past, Mahesh stands out as a shining for the younger lot. I must say, Archana is one lucky girl. If she can manage his need for attention neatly, she will never have to worry about her man’s dedication and commitment. So, Archana if you ever read this, you know what to do.

    Right, enough of papa preaching. My FB updates say the story.

     

    – Ok,all set for the big wedding
    Mahesh Janakiraman bas beta..teri aazadi khatam.. long live marriages..long live freedom
    – I’m wearing a pristine white shirt..n blue jeans ( lil embarrassed…didn’t realize it’s slightly torn in the front…call it ย fashion..duh )
    – this place is flooded with oldies
    – mahesh is in a white dhoti…bride in light purple saree…looks extremely elegant
    – by the way…mahesh’s mom bags the ‘best dressed’ tag…shez in a humble purple madi saree..wins hands down ๐Ÿ™‚
    – the fire comes on…lot of action out here..love these oldies…what energy…brilliant
    – 10:00:12am feb 7,2011
    mahesh and archana are married..bless them..
    Exceedingly happy..i lived to see this moment.

     

    Here are few videos I shot, quality is poor, so please excuse on that front. Also, I have zero understanding about the rituals, naturally, I cannot comment on them. right, here we go
    Kashi Yatra – Check out the toys and rangoli

     

    Couple swinging in a jhoola

     

    Refreshment before the real action

     

    Bride’s dad cleansing groom’s feet

     

    Groom gifts a saree to his soon-to-be wife

     

    Final build up before the climax, check out the crowd. By the way I was sitting in the first row.

     

    The shaadi moment. Groom ties the sacred thread around brides neck, now they are husband and wife.

     

    One last ritual, final moments of the ceremony

     

    Bonus Video – I’m sure you would love this

     

    This has been an extremely emotional day for me though my face or body language may not suggest that ( downside of being a Reddy, we aren’t expected to be emotional ๐Ÿ˜€ ). I still can’t beleive my chaddi yaar is a married man now ( yyaaayyyyyyyy yaaaayyyyyyy,,whistle whistle whistle )

    I wholeheartedly wish and bless my dearest friend and his lovely wife a happy and joyful life together.

     
    • sufiaz 4:23 pm on February 7, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      videos :D:D:D:D:D:D going to have a field day when i get home. will check them out all one by one ๐Ÿ™‚ *inshallah* (sorry mate, couldnt resist) expect my detailed comments then.

      wishing yr friend and his wife a happy life together ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Blockader 7:33 pm on February 7, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      Congratulate the happy couple for me, even over here in Canada someone is wishing them the best

    • sheryll 10:27 pm on February 7, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      Narendra,
      Congrats to your best-friend and his wife. He sounds like an awesome guy! I love the pictures.

      • Narendra 10:41 pm on February 7, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        Thank you..very sweet of you.. Yes, you’re right..he’s a colorful person..will convey your wishes

    • sufiaz 12:28 am on February 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      ok..my knowledge of indian weddings come entirely from bollywood, so lots of questions:

      1. how come u dont know abt the rituals?
      2. why the toys?
      3. why purple? dont brides in our part of the world wear red?
      4. why is the groom in a bunyan?
      5. why does brides father clean grooms feet?
      6. why the sad music?
      7. why bride and groom sit on floor?

      • Narendra 8:15 pm on February 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        Hahahhhahhaha…bollywood..come on girl..
        Firstly, there is a huge cultural gap in upper half of India and down south..here things are conservative and by n large simple..so here d are answers to ur Qs

        1. Rituals are complicated. I have no clue. Will let know u once I figure it out.
        2. You know what, this is the first time I have seen toys in a marriage, Mahesh himself was bewildered. Again, have to chk.
        3. Chk video 6,7 n 8..girl is in red saree..In vid 5..groom gifted the red saree to the bride.
        4. tht’s not a baniyan, lady..it’s a towel ๐Ÿ˜› it’s the dress code ๐Ÿ˜€
        5. Once again,no idea..have to chk
        6. it’s not sad music..it’s classical stuff..they dun play rock at marriage functions ๐Ÿ™‚
        7. Tradition ๐Ÿ™‚

        • sufiaz 10:32 am on February 10, 2011 Permalink | Reply

          bollywood..come on mate. we have weddings differently here. we dont even have all these rituals, how am i sposed to know what weddings on that side of the border r like ๐Ÿ˜‰

          it did look like a baniyan :$ sorry. why a towel even? but thank u for the rest of the explanations ๐Ÿ™‚

          • Narendra 10:52 am on February 10, 2011 Permalink | Reply

            hahahahhaha…come on mataji ๐Ÿ™‚
            I have no clue about these rituals thingy.
            Aur yeh towel ke baare mein koi idea nahi hai..as I said, it’s a dress code ๐Ÿ˜›

  • Narendra 8:30 am on February 6, 2011 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , family, , husband, , , , , Relationships, wife   

    Mahesh – talking about his marriage 

    A candid chat with my best friend on marriage and life after that. Mahesh being himself, does his best. None of the questions were shared before the shoot, it was done live, no cuts, no re-takes. It’s simply Mahesh.

     

     

    By the way, Mahesh weds Archana on 7th February 2011 and I’m exceedingly happy.

     

    More on the wedding tomorrow.

     

     
    • Arvinth 9:41 am on February 6, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      Awesome Video… My Best wishes to Mahesh and Archana!!! ๐Ÿ™‚

    • sufiaz 4:08 pm on February 6, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      best of luck to the happy couple ๐Ÿ™‚

      narendra DO cover the wedding, id love to see it ๐Ÿ™‚

      • Narendra 6:31 pm on February 6, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        yes yes yes yesssss…….can’t wait ๐Ÿ˜€

        • Reno Putri 2:10 am on February 7, 2011 Permalink | Reply

          Happy Wedding for your Best Freind….i hope all hez good wishes comes true.

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