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  • Narendra 12:39 pm on January 1, 2013 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Capital punishment, , , , Human rights, , , , women   

    Fight against Rape – A pitch 

    In a land where every possible crime is committed, having laws, be it strict or lenient is not going to solve anything. The ones who are not going to commit crime are anyways going to stay away and the ones who would are going to work things around it.

    For example, Terrorism, perhaps the most severe punishments are served against such acts but has that stopped or minimized Terrorism ? I guess the answer is NO. So, why hasn’t stringent laws deterred random youth, in few cases educated youth from flirting with such draconian activities ?

    I like to believe that a mind of a criminal is lot more complicated than a regular guy. Especially, the ones who commit one after rapeelaborate planning. And statistics reveal that a mind boggling 97% rapes are committed by people known to the victims. Which means we can safely presume these were planned and executed with clinical precision. Now, that is alarming. So, the next logical question would be how do you stop such planned crime against women ?

    I know many a suggestions and recommendations are doing rounds, each one has an opinion, few strong, few confused and few contradictory. Take for example, a news channel was talking about having more police around Malls, Railway stations, Bus terminus and other crowded areas meanwhile, another TV channel was lobbying for more protection is isolated areas since, they’re the places a lady would be at highest risk ( makes sense to me ).

    Here are my set of recommendations,

    1. Install Surveillance Camera’s in every street. Especially, ones which are isolated or far away from police stations or police chowk.

    2. Permit shops, malls, establishments etc to be open 24X7, 365 days. Let the city never sleep.

    3. Instead of distributing ‘Aakash’, the stupid tablet. Divert those funds to provide combat training & if possible some local variant of pepper spray for the female students.

    4. Of course, the laws need to be terrifying, I mean just chemical castration or 30 years imprisonment won’t do, it has to be something more torturous & lethal that would send shivers down the spine. ( I understand human rights violation and all, but do these criminals really deserve such rights ? )

    5. Movies & other mass media platforms need to reinvent themselves, when was the last time you saw “women” portrayed as a women in the Cinema,, my guess is ‘Mother India’ way back in 1957. After that it’s either bullshit or regressive. We need stricter guidelines for mass media, female folk deserve better representation.

    6. Women need to lift their game. If you want an equal standing, rise to it. Do not expect some man to respect you if women folk themselves are looking down on you. It’s not done at all. I don’t like the campaign which says ‘ Don’t ask your girls not to go out, teach your sons not to rape’ . Well you’re a mom or a sister to someone, why don’t you go and teach your folks. I mean stop blaming men for everything, look into your own world & fix the issues.  I recommend a massive overhaul, a steady and sustained educative campaign to empower women.

    7. As SRK put it ‘ I am so sorry that I am a man ‘. The biggest losers in this shameful process are the Gents. Raping or molesting a girl is an act of insanity, just terrible. We really need to revolutionize the way we treat our women. I know this is not going to happen in a month or a year or even in decades but it’s time to push for change. 50% of India’s population is under the age of 30, which means we have a sizable population which can be taught the right stuff at the right age. It’s in the governments hands to impart sufficient knowledge & sense of empathy to the budding minds. Again a humongous task, difficult but not Impossible.

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    • Arvinth 1:52 pm on January 1, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      Nice post.. I believe women should get more licensed guns so that they can protect themselves better..

      • Narendra 3:22 pm on January 1, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        Hahahahahaa…Come on, guns & killing is never a solution. Yes! I agree doing so would create a sense of fear among men when they plan an attack on a lady but shooting is bit radical for my taste.

        We don’t want a scenario where some crazy lady goes berserk and guns down men for fun or some pending grudge…this is India Bhai 🙂

    • sufiaz 7:07 pm on January 1, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      Im sorry to hear about that girl, forgetting her name. It is tragic to see how women are not respected in our society and a girl is not safe when she steps out on the street or goes about her daily business. Also unfortunately, even guys who stand up to protect women dont seem to be safe either. Only last week, a guy was shot dead in Karachi simply because he told someone off for harassing his sister. sad state of affairs.

      • Narendra 10:35 pm on January 1, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        You’re so right, even men who stand up for their women folks are under pressure too. So many such cases in India as well.

    • Ramya 2:27 pm on January 2, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      Superb yaar. Really a worth reading. Look into your own world and stop issues. Cent percent right.. But only some of the girls are very bold to face the issues and others are not i think…

      • Narendra 10:05 am on January 3, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        Yes! that’s the point, if safety is at stake, it’s imperative to rise & stand up for it.

  • Narendra 10:43 pm on March 8, 2011 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , , Human, , women   

    It’s women’s day today I am extremely fond… 

    It’s women’s day today. I am extremely fond of women, I love women, all of them. I spent most of my formative years among women, a swarm of them – sisters, neighbours, teachers [ almost all my teachers up till 12th grade were women ], classmates. However, I never felt too comfortable because they would turn volatile and unpredictable. Barring my mom [ who also goes mad at times ] most of them defied logic. I’m not much of an “analysis” person. I just go by what I see and experience. I wanted to spoilsport today, can’t allow women to take away all the credits. So here are few of my observations.

     

    1. You’re either a friend or an enemy – Important, Important, Very Important this. Women’s minds are fairly simple, they don’t have 101 classifications of people, they keep it simple. You’re either a friend or an enemy. Moreover, you can be moved from one end to another end in seconds and vice versa. Remember, there’s no in between thing and you cannot choose where you want to be. They decide.  🙂

    2. Women thrive on appreciation – I never fathomed the power of appreciation till I read ” How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie in 2002. So, I gave it a try, I was amazed to see the positive energy women exhibit on receiving appreciation. Great tool to build cordial relationship with women. Genuine appreciation can take you a long way. However, a  fake ” You’re beautiful” will do a whole lot of good too. Yes! any appreciation related to beauty works wonders 🙂

    3. Women have in-built lie detectors. This might sound contradictory to the above statement however, there’s a minor difference, lies related to beauty are exempted :).  Otherwise, It’s so damn hard to lie to a woman. They can see through people. So, watch out you might think you got away with lies but, you are wrong, you just got into trouble.

    4. Sweet talk works big time. it is an extension of point number 2. This is something I figured out as late as 2009. Earlier I used to be shy assuming sweet talk = flirting. Then, one of colleague who was an American on her farewell day, said “ Narendra, you’re cute, you should sweet talk, girls would love you“. I was initially baffled but then put it on trial. Results are mind blowing. Sweet talk is no rocket science, all you have to do is treat a girl irrespective of her age as a 12 year old. It works. I guess it works because no one really grows up, we all have a child inside and as we grow older very few cater to that. All girls might tell you they need a MAN not a boy but, believe me boy -> girl communication works hundred times better than Adult -> Adult communication.

    5. Women have impeccable memory, they remember EVERYTHING. At times to exact detail. Unfortunately, they are designed to retain the bad incidents. It’s like, even if you give them 99 good days and 1 bad day, all they would remember after 10 years is that 1 day :D. So, it’s better not to try too hard, keep it simple.

    6. Revenge comes naturally to women. If you do anything wrong be assured the lady would exert revenge. You may not even know she got her revenge but, she would. There’s no escape. Asking for forgiveness can only delay the inevitable. No mercy. Women folk may not like this but it’s so true. They neither forgive nor forget 😀 [ I’m going to be dead soon ]

    Aahhhhhh, I feel lot better now. I don’t want to pretend, I am 100% chauvinistic. The rise and rise of women maybe good for the female folk however, I feel it will negatively impact the social eco-system in the long run. We all seem to be too much worried about ozone layer and diminishing tigers, what about the social balance> Is anyone thinking?

     

     
    • Arvinth 6:32 am on March 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      Awesome post.. Luved reading thru it 🙂 Lets see wat Sufia replies.. Over to you Sufia..

    • sufiaz 11:06 am on March 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      lol arvinth..u r talking abt a girl who has more male friends than female friends, simply b/c of all the reasons narendra mentioned 😦 narendra is on my FB, he can see for himself how many females i interact with on a regular basis 🙂

      i read somewhere…”whats the male word for bitch? there isnt one”. the word is dog, which is a symbol of loyalty. whereas a bitch is a bad word.

      one thing narendra did miss: women are rarely straightforward. u can always tell what goes on in a mans head. a woman says sth in front u and sth different behind yr back. very difficult to trust a woman.

      • Narendra 11:39 am on March 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        Male word for Bitch….ROFL…crazy girl…

        I agree with your point. Women are crooked..lol… Whn I was growing up…my sisters used to bring their friends home…they used to act as if they were the best ever friends on earth… once they leave..natak begins…she said that..she said this..usne mera nose cut kiya..she thinks too much of herself…she jealous..she blah..she blah blah

        There are lot many observations..but free mein marna nahi chahta 😀

    • sufiaz 12:40 pm on March 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      lol :p i didnt say it 😉 someone else did 😉 a guy called dick masterson wrote a book called “men are better than women”…its highly exaggerated but some things he said r quite spot on. lol. u might like that one.

      • Narendra 1:00 pm on March 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        hehehehehe…will check that out…I guess sometime later in my life..once I get married and face more music…I would sit down and publish my own thing.. Narendra ki pitayi written by Narendra ” I love Women” Reddy

    • Srilatha 1:56 pm on March 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      macha….very well written….:):) it was toooooo gud!!
      i was jus amazed tat u neva mentioned bout ur sisters in the rite up….damn surprised i must say….but eventually…..u did mention it ….in ya replies….!!
      damn it….. my close frens yet remain close frens…. gals r meant to complain…. nd u r meant to listen…nd not suggest or comfort ….jus listen…. :P:P

      • Narendra 2:22 pm on March 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        Finally…Crazy Latha.. Chief tormentor and my younger sister has left a comment..hehehehhhee
        You need to understand…without u n Picchi Malli…I wouldn’t have known nothing about women.. lol

        BTW…Which friends are u talking abt…wht happnd to Reva, Jayantha etc etc…bas Sur is left..someday soon u wud fight her too..hehehehheee
        What I wrote in this post are not complaints..they’re my observations..I can’t do much..but I wudn’t accept female nautanki..
        aue haan..you wud pleased to know…One skill ur brother has been highly appreciated over the years is ‘Listening’…It has come naturally..maybe coz of dad..whn he speaks… by default I get attentive n never miss a word 😀

      • sufiaz 3:21 pm on March 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        well said srilatha 🙂 narendra yr sister has a good point 😉 women complain men listen 😀 and pls NO advice either.

        • sufiaz 3:26 pm on March 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply

          and i just did sth so typically girly 😉 changed my statement…narendra, i hope u learnt another lesson today: never rely on the word of a woman. u know according to my religion, in a court of law, theyll accept the evidence of ONE male witness, but they need TWO female witnesses..see even God thinks women are unreliable 😉

          • Narendra 4:30 pm on March 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply

            Heheheehehhee..Bhagwan bhi bharosa nahi karta..so sad..lol

            Just imagine a day whn women wud be at par with men…thr will be utter chaos..guess tht will be d end of this world…it won’t be a meteor or Tsunami…women will takes us out 😛

    • Single Malt Monkey 1:57 pm on March 10, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      This is funny, Narendra. Are you playing with fire ? 🙂

    • Srilatha 8:40 pm on March 11, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      DUH..u dun talk pls….. more thn i have spoken to u frm here….i hav spoken to reva nd jayanta….so u better wear a mouth zip smiley….!!

      • Narendra 8:50 pm on March 11, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        Ohhhhhhhhhh…natak
        BTW..I jus got zip wala smiley.. ^^>>><<<^^

  • Narendra 10:40 am on January 27, 2011 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: APD, car, , , , Letika Saran, scotland yard, vigil, women   

    Chennai Police 

    The other day my good friend Arvinth made a comment on Chennai city’s relatively risk free environment for women. Today’s TOI issue confirmed his statement – Click here to read more . Chennai ranks 34th amongst 35 major cities in crime against women. For a city with over 70 million population that’s is quite an achievement.

    One of the main reasons is, Chennai is culturally more tolerant and conservative. There are no bandhs, no strikes, no road roko, no public rallies. It’s like people of Chennai refuse to get carried away by hysteria ( The left might say we are not united ). There’s no major chaos barring the traffic. Even the terrorist don’t seem to take a liking for Chennai, that’s is where the next biggest reason for Chennai’s safe city status lies- The Chennai Police

    Chennai Police is a subset of Tamil Nadu Police department which is apparently headed by a lady – Ms.Letika Saran. Unlike most states TN police is most well equipped in terms of artillery, Intelligence , Infrastructure ( They even got a cyber cell to curb cyber menace ) and manpower. By the way check out their swanky patrol vehicle, cool right.

    To top it up lot of cops are being trained at Scotland yard, APD and World Police Academy ( Now that makes me S**t in my pants, I have given up my dreams of robbing a bank long ago..spare me you lovely cops ). With these well trained cops on vigil, we can feel a lot safer and secure. Yes, there is crime in our city but we also have one of the best Police force in India. Cheers to Chennai Police.

     
    • Arvinth 11:30 am on January 27, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      U forgot to mention.. Its being led by Captain VijayKanth of the 51st Brigadier Front of the Elite North Chennai Patrol team 😉

      • Narendra 11:35 am on January 27, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        haahahhhaha…Captain saar..saari I forgot to mention about you.. He’s is on man who can clean by the entire mess single handedly ….in movies that is… 😛

    • sufiaz 4:15 pm on January 27, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      very impressive i must say 🙂

    • Bianca 1:00 am on January 28, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      Yay Chennai!! 😀

    • Anonymous 10:16 pm on May 4, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      i do not know which policing r u speaking about? i will say only thing they r expert in hiding the things to show clean files and go to any extent to make them look effiecient . i think that’s whee the difference lies

      • Narendra 10:20 pm on May 4, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        Not sure if you lived in Chennai..things are definitely much better than the other mega cities..

    • kanchan 10:19 pm on May 4, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      i do not agree with u. i feel chennai police is expert in hiding the things by somehow closing the files o not at all opening them to reduce the reported cases. can give u the examples of my life not once but three times.

      • Narendra 10:22 pm on May 4, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        Oh..poor you..sorry to hear that..pls feel free to share your experiences..

  • Narendra 5:28 pm on January 24, 2011 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: bus, capital, , , generation, guys, , TOI, transport, women   

    Animals after 1900hrs 

    Aajkal ke ladke saat baje ke baad janwar ban jaate hai” ( Guys transform into animals after 7pm ) it came down as a slap on my face. I was in conversation with my B-School buddy when she made this statement in sheer disgust.  She poured out her heart about the annoying filthy men who passed lewd comments, made aggressive physical contact and hoot at her in public transport. She stayed like 10km away from the campus and usually commuted by the local bus. She went on to describe few of her harrowing experiences in Delhi city post 7pm, poor soul was clearly shaken as she put up a brave face. This was way back in 2003, that little conversation is deeply etched in my mind especially her teary red eyes.

    In the last several years Delhi’s reputation has taken a severe beating and become extremely infamous for atrocities against women. A recent news piece in TOI confirmed its notorious status, Delhi is now India’s rape capital. National crime reports bureau says, Delhi alone accounts to 40% of rapes in urban India. By the way Delhi is the capital of India, what a shame.

    Having lived in Delhi for considerable amount of time, I would blame the culture or should I say lack of it for miserable moral and social standard of men. It’s not that all Delhi guys are rouges ( One of my best pal was born and brought up in Delhi and he is an absolute gentleman ) but anyone who has lived there can tell you the difference. Out there for some strange reason women are not seen anything more than an object of pleasure, partly women are to be blamed for having let themselves down. However, it’s the men who have stooped to bottomless low. Makes me burn in rage -Aren’t we supposed to protect our women? Aren’t we supposed to show love and affection to our women? Aren’t we supposed to treat our women with dignity and respect? Why this crime? Why this shameful act?

    It pains me to say, things are not going to change, perhaps they would only get worse unless and until government steps in big time with radical amendments. However, for me the biggest game changer would be EDUCATION. We have already lost it with our current generation but education and awareness can bring about a steady change with the future generations. I sincerely hope the world would change for the better. Having said that, it would be a humongous challenge.

     

     
    • Arvinth 11:00 am on January 25, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      Very Shameful indeed.. 😦 I find Chennaiz the best city to live.. and I read in a famous literature that civilization that protect and revere women only blossom to their heights of glory.. or end like Ravanan awaits u 🙂

      • Narendra 11:38 am on January 25, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        I agree, Singara Chennai is the best despite few odd instances ( which should be curbed )

    • sufiaz 9:02 pm on January 25, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      doesnt it have sth to do with respect as well? it cud be possible men just dont learn to respect woman?

      not sure how the scene is in delhi….but here in the lower segments of society, women are kept indoors and away from strange men. when these men go out, they cant stop staring at the women they do manage to see. for the women of that stratum of society, if they do manage to get out, it is very common for them to have affairs and sleep around. thats the bg these men come from…so it is but natural to think of women like that. is the situation in delhi the same?

      • Narendra 9:54 pm on January 25, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        Delhi is lot different..it’s an open society..of course the conservatives do live..but by and large youngsters are running loose..

        Sufia it’s really sad that despite lot of men living with woman folk ( mom, sisters or relatives ), respect for women doesn’t seem to come naturally. I find that extremely disturbing how on earth can someone with sisters at his home go around doing such shameless stuff.. do they expect the same to happen to their female siblings? Appalling.

    • sufiaz 1:19 am on January 26, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      it doesnt….not from the educated classes, but in the lower classes, men and women grow up with this fed in their heads that women r somehow inferior and not worthy of respect., even the women dont teach their sons this cuz they believe themselves to be inferior.

      sadly enuff….”honor” is only applicable to ones own family…its ok for a man to ogle other women…but if someone else does it to his sister or wife or daughter..omg all hell breaks loose. if someone loses his head..either the ogler gets an arm or leg broken, or loses his life…or the sister does, for setting foot out of the house and putting herself in that position in the first place.

      shocking really.

    • rashmikamath 11:58 am on February 23, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      its good to know that there are guys out there who see the sensitivity of this issue and actually care to make a different impact. but i doubt the situation will ever change.

      • Narendra 12:11 pm on February 23, 2011 Permalink | Reply

        I grew up with 2 sisters, I totally understand the amount of harassment a girl faces in a big city. I know things won’t change, might only get worse.
        However, hoping for the best.

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